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What Is a Soulmate – and Are Soulmates Meant to Be Life Partners?
A soulmate is a profound spiritual connection from your soul family, often someone who mirrors your opposite qualities for growth and awareness. While the bond can feel intense and fated, a soulmate is not necessarily meant to be your ideal long-term life partner. Lasting partnerships are usually built on shared values, compatible priorities, and aligned life goals rather than spiritual polarity alone.
After reading for clients for more than thirty years, you might imagine that I’d be used to questions and discussions about soulmates… but the truth is that any suggestion of soulmates presents an immediate conundrum for me. And it happens a lot in February.
I ask, “What does soulmates mean to you?”
Aside from the obvious that my soulmate is not yours, everyone has a selection of characteristics that they believe will signal that they are in the presence of their soulmate.
Soulmate indicators may be physical (height, weight, colouring), personality (serious, quiet, risk-taking), spiritual (religion) or intellectual (education, aspirations). In any case, most are confident their soulmate is both attractive and attracted to them.
Real Life-Long Partnership
Who we partner with will have life-altering impacts on the decisions we make in every aspect of our lives. Decisions, for example, that will determine our health, who or if we have offspring, our longevity, geographical location, career path, self-esteem and other familial and friend relationships. Yet most people choose their life partners, impulsively and randomly.
And well to be blunt, rather mindlessly.
People who are even the most hesitant of risk-takers, will wildly leap into a partnership with someone they met on vacation, online or handily next door. I’ve known people who would never take a financial risk unless it was a guaranteed windfall, but they will send money online to a perfect stranger they met on vacation, who they believe is their soulmate. I know. Hard to believe.
Can a relationship be right at one stage of life and wrong at another?
Absolutely. Personal development changes priorities and needs. A partner who was aligned during early adulthood may not remain aligned in later years.
True Spiritual Soulmates are Not Good Partners
From what I’ve learned about soul mates, (you could write on a post-it note by the way), a soul mate is someone our soul is attached to, often inexplicably yet determinedly. Because this attraction has nothing to do with ego, lust or apparent practicality, it’s crazy-making to try and explain it to anyone. It is also highly unlikely that they would be the perfect mate for us in this embodied state. Your forever soulmate from the perspective of soul, has nothing to do with earth mating.
A soulmate is like your perfectly designed opposite. Your true soulmate is a spiritual twin, not an embodied one. This means that your soul mate may be presenting in a relationship which is sibling, parent, child, distant relative, friend, colleague or neighbour. It could be someone sitting next to you on a plane, train or bus.
It is that special zing person whom, upon meeting them for the first time, you feel as if you are being seen. There are more than one too. Soulmate singular, is a misconception. We belong to soul families. Remember too, that soulmates are your opposite in every way that counts.
Altogether the soul family make up a complete whole. Where they love details, you love the big picture; where you love art, they love physics; where you love to talk about everything, they are listeners; where you love to travel, they love being stationary.
Imagine partnering with someone that is the opposite to you in values. Too many partnerships overlook this critical factor in determining whether a partnership will be a long-term possibility. Someone who is generous with their time and resources to their family and communities, partnering with someone who is insular and protective, is a prescription for endless conflict. It never ends. Yet if they were your soulmate, that would be only the edge of your conflicts! In Tarot, this is the Swords suit where thoughts and attitudes can lead to endless debate and ultimately, fighting.
Who is Your Ideal Mate
Your ideal mate is someone who shares enough fundamental similarities, such as, values, priorities and personality idiosyncrasies, such as habits and goals. These similarities would never be shared between soulmates.
I would be more comfortable with the question, “Is this person going to make a life-enhancing partner for me?” I can work with that question with more accuracy and ease.
There needs to be room for challenge, learning and growth. Too many partnerships become stale and mind-numbingly boring, due to an almost too close a compatibility. Others fall apart because the base of the partnership was always material as opposed to spiritual.
The physical world becomes increasingly less important as we age. It’s the spiritual that calls to our heart and soul. For some, they will reach for security, others will reach for adventure.
Should you stay in a relationship for family or security reasons?
Every situation is unique, but long-term fulfillment requires emotional, spiritual, and practical compatibility. Honest reflection is essential when weighing commitment against personal growth.
The Gray Divorce
The highest divorce rate in Canada is what they have coined, the Gray Divorce. The 55 plus group are giving up the ghost on their life partnerships. They have reached their last stage of adult development, and are forced to acknowledge that the partnership is kaput. They were committed to staying together for family, children, and finances.
They are forced to face that their time on earth is approaching its conclusion; they must concede that they are not going to spend it with someone they are not compatible with, or do what they have been doing. Every stage of adult development challenges the status quo. Reaching elder is no different.
One wants to travel, the other wants to stay put; one wants to be with the family, the other wants to be free of them. One wants to cash in the assets and the other wants to eek them out. The fighting is endless and exhausting. My cpu hero mentioned the other day that his parents have been married for a donkey’s age, and they constantly fight. He thinks they love each other. Maybe, is what he said. They are in their ‘70’s and his dad’s health has taken a dire turn recently, which has put even heavier pressures on an already ill marriage.
Divorce is hard on everybody, especially their adult children who may be married and have children themselves. A crisis erupts as everyone figures out what side they’re on and how they are going to manage it. Family functions become awkward, new lovers are embarrassing, and the changes in both parents can be unbalancing for even the most stable of children, who find themselves playing parent to one or both parents off on their own.
It’s not a sign of a problem in society but rather an expectation that may not be realistic. We may need to accept that the person who is right for us at one stage of development, is not the right person at the final stage. We couldn’t know who we would become any more than who they would become over the decades. Some who are active in their youth become sedentary in their elder years and some who were bright witted may become dull.
Readings can be deeply helpful in these stressful times, especially for those in serious relationships and working hard to keep an even keel at home. I wish you a wonderful relationship month in whatever way you celebrate that in your life!
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Conclusion: Love, Growth, and the Wisdom of Discernment
February invites us to reflect on love, connection, and the meaning we assign to the word “soulmate.” After decades of professional Tarot practice, Kathleen has observed that the intensity of a spiritual bond does not always translate into earthly harmony. A true soulmate connection can feel electric, undeniable, even fated. Yet long-term partnership requires something steadier: shared values, compatible priorities, emotional maturity, and mutual respect.
As life unfolds through its stages, what once felt aligned may evolve. This is not failure. It is development. Human beings change. Needs shift. Priorities deepen. The question becomes less about destiny and more about discernment: Is this relationship life-enhancing now?
Through the lens of the Tarot, particularly the mental and communicative tensions symbolized in the Swords suit, Kathleen often helps clients untangle whether they are experiencing spiritual polarity, ego attachment, or genuine compatibility. In times of confusion, especially during major transitions such as retirement, empty nesting, or later-life reassessment, a grounded reading can provide clarity and calm.
Love is not one-size-fits-all. Nor is it singular. We belong to soul families. We encounter teachers, mirrors, challengers, and companions. Some stay for decades. Others arrive for a season. The deeper work is understanding which role a person plays in your life right now, and whether that role supports your well-being.
If you are questioning a relationship, navigating separation, or wondering whether someone is truly right for you, a confidential session with Kathleen Meadows can offer thoughtful, spiritually grounded insight.
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Understanding Soulmates: Beyond Romance and True Partners
This title addresses the common misconceptions about soulmates and emphasizes the distinction between spiritual connections and practical partnerships, attracting readers seeking clarity on the topic.
What is “Gray Divorce” and why is it increasing?
Gray Divorce refers to separation among couples aged 55 and older. It often occurs when partners reassess compatibility during later life stages such as retirement.
